Authoress: Nicole McGill
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Thursday, March 11, 2010
“Homeless Angel”
Most will glance at this photo and see a NOBODY! They WILL devalue the existence of her soul by calling her degrading names such as, crack head, bum, crazy, homeless drug addict, mentally ill, mental case, low-life, a waste of space on this God-given earth! They'll feel justified by detaching themselves from the very existence of her being. They'll dehumanize her by simply disregarding individuality, aspects of her interesting personality, special God given gifts, and even her ability to display compassion towards others. In their minds, she’s not human! Inadvertently they'll disassociate her from the human race! Some will possess more compassion for their dogs! I know what you’re thinking, “I don’t do that!” Sure you don’t! Anyway, some do this by referencing her as if she’s an IT, or OBJECT possessing little or no meaning. Her mere presence alone will bring unjustified reproach upon the value of her soul by those who deem themselves superior. I ponder! “Why & How do some pick and choose who they will value? When they look at her what do, they actually see? An enlightened friend made a profound statement. “This is a picture of all of us, Ken stated!” Most will disagree! If you think about it for a moment don't we all have something in common with the Homeless Angel! You may want to ponder.
Dehumanization is an action that humans take to disassociate themselves from what they claim as, lesser beings. They utilize negative labels to classify individuals as inferior or superior, incomparable entities, and objects lacking identity. Dehumanization is an evil tactic! Prejudice perspectives, pre-conceived notions, and bias are at it’s core. I recognize the spirit as hateful! Most claim, “I wouldn’t say I hate homeless people! I care! I’m just tired of their games! Most are liars, on a mission to trick me out of my money. They’re too lazy to work! Some have more money than I do! They don’t have to be homeless. There are pads, shelters, and other community outreaches available! I’ll pray for them but I’m not going to give them any money. They might be dangerous! I’m not going to initiate a conversation, or go out my way to display love. No one helped me and I made it! This is a world where only the fittest survives. Everyone has to play a role, even if it’s the homeless role!” These are just a few of many justifications. They all sound good. They even make sense to the most intelligent minds. However, justifications are just that, justifications! I place no value on them at all. There is no justification that justifies this type of dubious behavior or frame of reference!
John F Hannah prophesied earlier this year that 2010 was the year of Divine Connection, the year of action! Well, at about seven o’clock pm March 7, 2010 in a mini mall parking lot in the influential suburb of Homewood, Illinois! I spotted the “Homeless Angel” sitting in a small section of grass with a plastic bag protecting her head from the cold. She sat silently alone! Next to her were all of her belongings organized very neatly. As I waited, on a friend, I watched her for a while! “How does she feel out here in the cold all alone? Does she feel loved? Is she devastated, broken, bruised, and depressed? Is she hungry? Does she feel burdened? Does she feel as if God has forsaken her? Does she still believe in God? Is she angry? Does she hate everyone? What has life dealt her, and how did she get here on this day? Does anyone love her, I pondered!” As I continued to watch, my focus shifted to the passengers! I watched for nonverbal and verbal clues of compassion and concern. No one stopped! They glanced! Two out of about forty vehicles slowed down. She was sitting in eyesight view for all to observe.
After about fifty minutes, my spirit led me to approach the Homeless Angel. My presence startled her I could tell by the look on her face. I said, “Hello, how are you tonight? I don’t mean to frighten you. My name is Nicole McGill. I’ve been watching you from over there in my vehicle. I came over because I’m concerned! Are you okay?” The Beautiful Homeless Angel responded articulated and gracefully, “Baby Jesus protects and loves me! We’re so close! He’s right here! He’s with me everywhere! He gives me everything! I love him so much!” I won’t lie! Her response took me for a loop! Suddenly, I looked around in search for all of the material things she claimed Baby Jesus provided. You should’ve seen my face! At that moment, I appeared foolish! With my eyebrow raised, I asked, “Why do you still love God?” The Homeless Angel looked at me as if she was in the presence of the Devil himself. So, I elaborated! “I’m just asking because you’re sleeping out here in the cold! You’re alone and you don’t have many things, I asked!” The Angel responded, “I’m not alone! I told you Baby Jesus is here! He’s with me all of the time! He never leaves! I have everything!” I asked, “You do?” As she extended her hands to the heavens with a great big smile on her face she declared, “He loves me so much and I love Baby Jesus!” With a startled look, I proceeded to say, “This is amazing, I know people who were blessed endlessly with material things and they lack the faith that you have for our Heavenly Father! This is crazy! You seem to have more faith than I!” At that point, my friend rode up and the conversation ended. I promised to return later that night.
At around 3 am I was in the bed but my spirit refused to rest. I had given the Homeless Angel my word to return. So, I got up went into my closet searching for something warm. All I could think about was when she admitted sleeping in the Home Depot shed! My heart hurt for the Angel! I grabbed the items, purse, car keys, and I search for her in the same parking lot. She was there but in a different location. When she noticed it was I, she smiled. “I knew you would return. Baby Jesus told me you would come back to get the message! He sends me around. I travel all over just to give his people messages! You know I heard about the Indians claiming that Baby Jesus will return in the year 2012! I’m waiting on him to return!” I asked, “You are? She nodded! I went into my car, retrieved my 2,500 fur coat, and a pair of pants to give to my Homeless Angel. I handed her the coat! With excitement in her eyes she asked, “Is it real?” I responded, “Yes it is! I wanted you to have it to keep warm. Also, I wanted you to know that I love you so much!” She looked at the coat and at me and responded, “I don’t need it where I’m going!” So, I insisted that she take it to either sleep on top of it as a blanket or use it as a pillow! “No, Baby Jesus told me that you would return with a hotel key so that I can sleep warm tonight, she declared!” I asked, “Did he? She nodded! So, I went into my pocket and handed her the hotel key! She screamed with joy, “I told you, Baby Jesus takes care of me Nicole! Baby Jesus and I are close! He gives me everything!”
I don’t expect for those who aren’t spirit lead to understand this spiritual encounter in its depth! My prayer is that one day soon you will reach this beautiful state of enlightenment, a place where you will search to discover the God in all things. When I look at the photo of the Homeless Angel, I see a Mighty Woman of God! I see beauty at its rawest form! I see the eyes and feel the soul of an Angel! I see beyond her dirty raggedy attire, wrinkles, pimples, stained teeth, and disgusting odor. Her physical appearance and underprivileged state did not hinder me from embracing, loving, and receiving the message God intended. Humans self-professed Professionals would clearly diagnose her with a mental illness. I ask, “By whose standards?” Christel, my sister claimed, “Those deemed mentally ill are usually the enlightened ones! They’re more aware than the majority! They can’t reside in the midst of a civilization of hatred and evil. Most are too sensitive to live amongst such darkness!” I concur! The Homeless Angel was more enlightened than anyone I’ve ever met in my life! Her faith in God was so strong! I could’ve sworn that she could actually see God! She was more sane then the insane! I won’t share all of the messages God utilized the Homeless Angel to deliver. They’re too personal! You can assume, or receive your own messages from my spiritual encounter its up to you! Maybe, God’ utilizing me to provide you with a message as well, I don’t know! I have realized on this spiritual journey that God will use enlightened ones from all walks of life to provide us with messages and blessings! If I would’ve disregard, demeaned, judged, dehumanized the Homeless Angel, I would’ve missed an extremely major blessings. Friends, I pray that you value all of God’s people! God is Love! When the Homeless Angel spoke, the Lord spoke! To God Be the Glory!
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Daddy’s Girls why do you keep dating Pimps like your Daddy?
“Wow, I’m a woman of substance, intelligent, attractive, charismatic, spiritually grounded, refined, cultured, nurturer, professional, homemaker, sexy, and multidimensional. Any sane man would deem me a Diamond in the Rough, wonderful wife, or marriage material. So, why do I always end up in dysfunctional relationships, with half-raised dubious men who intentionally try to break my spirit repeatedly? My entire dating experience has been one massive disaster after another, filled with lies, betrayal, abuse, disrespect, and mistreatment in various forms or fashions. I know my worth! So why do I doggedly choose losers, jerks, imposters, men incapable of loving me in the way I desire, and deserve? I don’t have a specific preference. I date a variety of quality men, so I thought. For some reason, they appear into my life as the answers to my exhaustingly long patient wait for true love. Eventually, they transform into creatures of the same descents, displaying similar dysfunctional behaviors. What’s going on, I feel like I’m in the middle of a conspiracy theory. They’re secret agents working together, plotting against the essence of my soul. They come at different times. Appearing unique, possessing similar game, as if they’re all one in the same. If I didn’t know any better, I would assume they’re all related. Better yet, they remind me of my Daddy.” If this is similar to your dating experiences, then you may want to continue reading the article.
How was your relationship with your Biological Father? How did your father treat your mother or the women in his life? What type of personality did he have? These are just some questions to consider, if you want to understand your selection process. You may want to stop here, ponder for a moment, and take notes. Unknowingly to most, your father, present or not, was mainly responsible for shaping your perception/picture of men. His role was fundamental to your development from childhood into adulthood. He set the standard of a man, beliefs that a young girl would subconsciously/unintentionally use to establish low or high standards internally/within. The role he portrayed would evolve into a normal state of being in her mind. She would most likely attract men who emulate/copy or reject his ways, or take on his behavior in adulthood. Honestly ask yourself, “Was my father a good man, was he a man of high morale? Am I my father? Are the men in my life a reflection of my Daddy?
Most family models of what a family should be sets up abusive, emotionally dishonest dynamics. What we considered normal Black parenting was abusive in nature, linked back to the slavery era. “Children are to be seen not heard, Do as I say not as I do,” does not work with children at all. We know this because we’re emulating/copying some of our parent’s behaviors now. The standard of a good father differs. So, I’m going to mention just a few attributes. A father provides a strong secure foundation as an ACTIVE leader, protector, provider, fun loving, disciplinary, confidant, and nurturer. He’s the definition of a man. A reflection of God’s image and love, rather or not he resides in the household. His relationship with women provides daughters with key knowledge of a man’s desires, behaviors, and thinking process. His behavior establishes expectations of treatment. He understands how critical it is to invest an appropriate amount of time, energy, and emotions into his daughter, enabling her into a well-grounded, lovely, confident, high-esteem, mighty, successful woman. This woman will most likely select decent or honorable men to date, men who resemble her wonderful father. Her father’s role is not an alternate role, and love is irreplaceable. Stepfather’s are not the replacements of biological fathers, they’re alternates, and the same rules should apply.
On the other hand, Pimp Daddies are poor examples of fathers. Most behave as if their dubious behavior or secret double lives will not affect their daughters. That belief couldn’t be further from the truth. Daughters who witness the verbal or physical abuse of their mothers WILL go through the drama in adulthood as well. Pimp Daddies look at your beautiful Angels. Imagine your daughter getting her ass kicked, by someone’s son who possesses similar traits. He will demean your daughter as you demean her mother or the women in your life. Now, he will do as you do, unto your daughter, your princess, your baby girl. You can bet on the fact that he’s emulating their father’s pimp ways as well. You should also imagine him feeling empowered by his ability to break her spirit. You may be thinking, “No he won’t. I’m going to game my daughter up. Let one of those Young ***** cross my doorstep looking for my Baby girl. I’ll be waiting with my pistol or other forms of destruction.” Usually comments such as these provide fathers with temporary gratification and comfort. Well, I have news for you Daddies. Most fathers claim the same things, and soon discover that they can’t stop a Pimp/Player from inflicting his wrath of pain upon Daddies Girls. Wow, that bit of truth might trigger denial! The fact is daughters will most likely select, a Pimp like their Daddies! The odds are not in her favor at all.
Womanizing behaviors such as, serial cheating, pimping women for money and gifts, traveling from various baby’s mama to prospective girlfriend’s houses, will influence daughter to either accept or inflict similar behaviors. If they accept the behavior, they will evolve into fixers, and set goals to fix the broken man. She’ll help him find a job, establish a new career, clean up his appearance by purchasing clothes, assist him with working through internal issues, personality flaws, insecurities, substance-abuse, and etc. Usually he doesn’t change, may even resist, or resent her efforts. She’ll continue to make massive sacrifices all in the name of unconditional love. The love never received by her father. If he does it’s a temporary change, usually the dog will just return to his vomit, dump her and move on to another woman of substance. She will most likely repeat the “save the dog syndrome” after he’s finish sucking the life from her spirit as well. Why you may ask, well it’s certainly not because she’s stupid, or she asked to be mistreated, although most would love to believe those myths. No, this is what her father taught her love was with his actions. She will remain in the relationship proving to her “father” that she’s worthy of love, did I say father or man? I said father, remember the man is just a reflection of her father.
If a husband is overbearing, selfish, aggressive, and demeans his wife with despicable names such as fat ass, hoars, bitches, sluts, etc. Then most likely his daughter will marry a man similar to her father. Or she’ll marry a passive, self-sacrificing martyr, loving, sensitive, respectful more than worthy man, and will evolve into her father and mistreat him just as her father mistreated her mother. When confronted, she won’t apologize, because her behavior will be justified as normal in her sick and twisted, distorted eyes. She’ll endure his hateful put-downs, mocking, and insensitivity, and allow men to use her insecurities to control her, or keep her in her rightful place as a needy subservient wife. The more he mistreats her the more she loves and attempts to prove her unconditional selfless love to a man who’s nothing more than a reflection of her Biological Pimp Daddy. Eventually, she will become addicted to chaos, and remain caught up in dysfunctional continuous cycles of loving and hurting.
These women grew up in situations where they witnessed their father’s drunken rampages, drug abusive behaviors, abusive episodes, sexual deviant behaviors, rage episodes, and etc. They also watched they’re weakened mothers accept and endure. Most young girls resented their mothers for allowing the behavior, or because of her lack of ability to resolve the problems. As children, they began thinking about resolutions. They tell themselves, “When I grow up I’m going to do what mommy couldn’t do. She’s stupid, I’m never going to allow a man to treat me like that.” Why is she making Daddy mad? She’s making him want to leave us.” Fairy tales where the Prince kissed and rescued the damsel in distress, influenced such thinking. As adults, they marry frogs they can change and turn into the man of their dreams. As adults, these same women make comments such as, “I can’t believe she let her man get away, or “When are you going to find a decent man?” I call these ladies, the send off girls! Sadly, they believe that any man is better than no man, and that a dysfunctional man is the epitome of a man, because he’s just like their Pimp Daddies.
If you see yourself or your father in one of the scenarios and you find yourself blaming men for abusing you time and time again. You may want to stop blaming the Pimps who are merely just reflections of deeper-rooted issues. You may want to search within for the answers. I too was a victim of dating self-professed pimp/players with similar characteristics of my father. I will not share my story. You’ll have to read that in my up-coming memoir, “Dumb Blonde Black Girl.” However, I will share, that I applied mental tools to reprogram my thinking, and self-destructive behaviors. Presently, I’m no longer attracted to sick and twisted men, who constantly fed off my pain and attempt to suck the very life from my soul! Now that’s a thing of my past. What I now realize is that I was my worst enemy. Once I focused on my inner versus physical development, everything else fell into place. I no longer desired Pimps like my Daddy, in fact I despised their dubious ways on levels your never understand.
The law of attraction is accurate when it claims, “We are who we attract.” Sadly, we’re sometimes reflections of our imperfect biological parent’s parenting. Thank God, we weren’t built to break, our bodies, minds, and spirits were built to restore. Some father’s established their dubious behaviors and poor parenting from their Pimp Daddies, and unintentionally pass the generational curses down to their daughters and sons. However, God does not give us more than we can handle. He’s capable of renewing the minds of broken daughters and fathers. My Heavenly Daddy is my new example of a perfect father. All I had to do was seek him and follow his principles solely designed to protect me from the grasps of victimizers. Now, I’m a reflection of my Heavenly Father versus my biological father. Sometimes, we must reflect back to where we established learned behaviors, or generational curses, in order to heal today. We must fully understand ourselves if we desire to operate from higher states of awareness, or if we desire to experience joy. If you can relate, then consider attending the next Victorious Vision Workshop, “Daddy’s Girls why do you keep Dating Pimps like your Daddy? I can provide you with mental tools to identify and replace mental models within, and reprogram self-destructive behavior.
Authoress: Nicole McGill
CEO/President of Victorious Visions Inc.
Thank you for your time and feel free to provide feedback friends.
Authoress: Nicole McGill
CEO/President of Victorious Visions Inc.
Thank you for your time and feel free to provide feedback friends.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
“WHY DO YOU HATE ME, HATER?”
The other day an individual asked a very interesting question. “Nicole, why would you say people hate you?” I wondered, “Wow, I can’t believe he asked me that crazy question. Why would he ask me, I’m not a mind reader? At that moment, I had two options, ignore, or respond to the question! If you know me, then I don’t even have to tell you that I chose the latter! ~TICKLE~ “They Hated Jesus without a cause, and I’m his humble servant, so they will hate me without a cause as well, I responded! "
I have always wondered what actually goes on in the mind of a Hater:
- How does one justify the sick and twisted behavior?
- When a negative thought emerges, exactly what do they experience mentally and physically?
- How does one determine whom he or she will hate?
- What are the characteristics of a Hater?
- Lastly, Is there a Hater Resolution?
Well, the Urban Dictionary provides various levels, and Hater behaviors; one who exposes imaginary flaws, speaks badly with the attempt to knock someone DOWN a notch, completely DISMISS ANY positive traits or actions, MERELY paints a LESS than flattering picture by using words with negative connotations attached, pretends to act happy for other’s SUCCESSES, and than gossips. Anyone who hates on another person for GOOD reasons, and finds satisfaction in another’s MISFORTUNE. They create special links in groups, and fuel each other’s hatred by hating with like minds, all consumed with making others feel inferior or awful.
Physically, Hating may be a form of stress relief. They seem to experience a brief state of happiness, temporary high, or a state of euphoria. They take DELIGHT in hurting people to build one’s own ego. Most seem to become addicted to the state of euphoria. The Merriam Webster dictionary defines hate as, an intense hostility and disgust usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury motivated by hostility. Wow, that’s strange! If one possesses feelings of fear, anger, or hostility, and hasn’t learned to deal with those emotions effectively. Most likely, that individual will transform into a Hater, because to remove oneself from a Hater’s mentality temporarily, one must find joy through feeding from the never-ending source of negativity! Now, I get it, they’re miserable people searching for JOY! When you think about it, there’s never a bad reason, to hate! People don’t hate on individuals who they feel are beneath them, oh no, they don’t even get a thought! In their minds, they’re non-existent! They must hate on someone who physically or materially possess something they lack. Someone they feel is superior, leaving them feeling inferior, in their distorted minds. Sadly, they do not realize that we’re all made equal.
They possess PhD’s in Hater Communications, and later establish lifelong careers within the various Hater’s departments. ~TICKLE~ I must admit, some are highly equipped, extremely successful, and should never be underestimated. On a good note, this leads me to conclude that happy, joyous, and content people do not hate. They don’t have a need too. This is probably why they uplift, shine, reflect positive energy, associate with like minds, and possesses something Haters aren’t privy too. Well, favor ain’t fair! Wow, if I reflect, I don’t think I have ever in my life, encountered a person in a state of awareness hate on someone. Now, that’s a revelation! Now, how does one justify the sick and twisted behavior? Well, their self-talk deceives them into believing that they have a justifiable cause, meaning they have a good reason. At other times, they hate in groups. You see, if they gather in groups, the negative energy escalates, and emerges into a Mighty Mighty force against their victims. Together they stand powerful, justified, and quite satisfied as they feed off each other like vicious sneaky snakes. The characteristics of a Hater could be classified as; insecure, lack confidence, drive, education, self-esteem, spirituality, morals & values, conscious, self-love, empathy, sympathy, positive inner light, and etc. They’re unconscious, unaware, uninformed, miserable, unhappy, always complaining, arguing, going through something, blaming someone else for their dubious behaviors, making excuses, and justifying why they’re living beneath their privilege. They are truly sad, and playing on the wrong team.
Now, how does a Hater transform? First, mind your own business! Stop using others to distract you from focusing on self, it takes a lot of energy to face and accept ones truth. Focus on developing intrapersonally and spiritually. Work on healing within, whatever’s going on is a personal problem that should be addressed and revealed. If the problem remains hidden or suppressed then you’ll inflict your wrath of evil on everyone around. You’ll become everyone’s downfall. Slowly, you’ll discover that you are losing friends, mates, associates, family members, and most of all your soul. Remember, you don’t really hate anyone but yourself, what you need to do is stop hating yourself without a cause!!!!!! At the end, it’s all about how you feel about yourself as a person. Intrapersonal development is the key to enlightenment. It’s time to rise up out of the dark and allow God to lead you into the light. Take responsibility, search within, and make a change. If not, you will discover, while hating on other’s you are not doing anything but hating on yourself, because you do not have a reason to hate. The people you continue to hate on will continue to press on successfully. Question, how long will you allow fear, anger, and rage to take control of your life? Love provides you with a greater experience. You are truly missing out! Love is the greatest of all things! Fear of change, acceptance and success is the enemy! Stop hating people without a cause, or for their good cause? The Devil is a Hater! Don’t hate congratulate! Shame on you! Now that you've been placed in a box, and defined , you can be overthrown and Mastered! You lost your power!
Authoress: Nicole McGill
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Materialistic girl what has your Man really done for you lately? "Physical vs Spiritual?"
What can a man do for me?
What determines a good man?
How do you know if the man you’re seeking is worthy of you?
How do you truly know if he’s the love of your life?
These are questions that friends and I have asked others and ourselves at some point. Have you asked the same questions? Are you presently asking these questions? If so, then stop asking and listen closely! This morning, I was inspired to write to note after opening, Angela Marie Trotter’s email note based off her personal experience. She stated, “It's not about what a man can PHYSICALLY do for you, but what he can SPIRITUALLY do for you.” The statement, touched my spirit man, and reminded me of a time I measured a man’s love by the material things he provided. “Girl, I know he loves me, he buys me whatever I want. There aren’t any limits to his pockets! I’m the coldest, and he better act like he knows, what it do, and give me that money, okay, I stated?” Girlfriends, agreed! We were aware that, money couldn’t buy love. However we were unaware that by doing so, we were actual participants selling our bodies and souls to the Devil.
Our perception/vision distorted! Not realizing that we were victims bound to men whom lacked substance, we honored and cherished men who LACKED strong values. We had LOW standards. Our so-called TEN, was an enlightened woman’s ONE! They valued spirituality! We valued physicality! Wives, girlfriends, lovers, mates, whatever the title, have been guilty of choosing the wrong mates at some point in their lives. We’ve bragged about his wealth, attempting to prove to others and ourselves that he’s a good man. Only deceiving ourselves, because at the end of the day! We had to face the truth of his character; cheater, manipulator, unappreciative, breaker of spirit, abuser, user, insensitive, uncompassionate, mentally & spiritually selfish, withdrawn, unstable, bad temper, vindictive, unbecoming narcissistic qualities. Most men physically capable possess at least one of the mentioned damaging characteristics that could result in the breaking of a woman’s spirit. Most refuse to admit that the outer qualities they value comes along with a massive mental and spiritual price tag! They’re bound to the Mighty Dollar! The Illusion or Fake Picture of Love, controls their minds and actions. Leaving them spiritually empty, without passion, and drive, to discover and strive for a purpose-filled life.
Presently, as a renewed more enlightened woman my motto is, “Whatever He can do, I can do for myself, I don’t need a man financially. I’m credentialed up and more than capable of providing for my family. I need a man that’s going to uplift my spirit. I’m woman enough to admit that I need a man to feed my soul. Motivate, inspire, me to strive for my God-given greatest. With him, everything is possible, because he places God first in his life. Only this man can be trusted, because his flesh doesn’t rule. His spirit man is his guide! God is his guide! He’s LESS likely to misguide you into the wrong direction. You should expect him to bring out the BEST in you, not hinder your spiritual, mental, or physical development. He’s not going to request you to become a kept woman, if that’s not what you desire, or create division between friends and family. If you lack purpose, he will help discover your purpose. As a supporter, he knows what your spirit desires before you even have to ask. With him, there are NO excuses, justifications, and inner need for material things to gratify your heart for a MOMENT. With him, there is peace of mind, confidence, high esteem, passion, purpose, strong will, drive, loving kindness, patience, agape love, comfort, security, faith, sense of completion. The Bible states, “When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing!” This is true! However, it’s doesn’t speak against choosing your mate in return. Just because a man chooses you, doesn’t mean you must choose him in return. It’s important to select a righteous man. With a Mighty Spiritual man, there is God! Ladies, the next time you decide to brag about your man, make certain you truly have something of substance to brag about pertaining to him! You may impress friends and associates that lack substance, but you will not appear impressive to those enlightened. Sadly, you will appear, bound, lost, broken, led astray, unaware, and a woman who lacks substance.
Victorious ones envision Victory!
Authoress: Nicole McGill
CEO/President of Victorious Visions Inc.
Victoriousvisionsinc.com
What determines a good man?
How do you know if the man you’re seeking is worthy of you?
How do you truly know if he’s the love of your life?
These are questions that friends and I have asked others and ourselves at some point. Have you asked the same questions? Are you presently asking these questions? If so, then stop asking and listen closely! This morning, I was inspired to write to note after opening, Angela Marie Trotter’s email note based off her personal experience. She stated, “It's not about what a man can PHYSICALLY do for you, but what he can SPIRITUALLY do for you.” The statement, touched my spirit man, and reminded me of a time I measured a man’s love by the material things he provided. “Girl, I know he loves me, he buys me whatever I want. There aren’t any limits to his pockets! I’m the coldest, and he better act like he knows, what it do, and give me that money, okay, I stated?” Girlfriends, agreed! We were aware that, money couldn’t buy love. However we were unaware that by doing so, we were actual participants selling our bodies and souls to the Devil.
Our perception/vision distorted! Not realizing that we were victims bound to men whom lacked substance, we honored and cherished men who LACKED strong values. We had LOW standards. Our so-called TEN, was an enlightened woman’s ONE! They valued spirituality! We valued physicality! Wives, girlfriends, lovers, mates, whatever the title, have been guilty of choosing the wrong mates at some point in their lives. We’ve bragged about his wealth, attempting to prove to others and ourselves that he’s a good man. Only deceiving ourselves, because at the end of the day! We had to face the truth of his character; cheater, manipulator, unappreciative, breaker of spirit, abuser, user, insensitive, uncompassionate, mentally & spiritually selfish, withdrawn, unstable, bad temper, vindictive, unbecoming narcissistic qualities. Most men physically capable possess at least one of the mentioned damaging characteristics that could result in the breaking of a woman’s spirit. Most refuse to admit that the outer qualities they value comes along with a massive mental and spiritual price tag! They’re bound to the Mighty Dollar! The Illusion or Fake Picture of Love, controls their minds and actions. Leaving them spiritually empty, without passion, and drive, to discover and strive for a purpose-filled life.
Presently, as a renewed more enlightened woman my motto is, “Whatever He can do, I can do for myself, I don’t need a man financially. I’m credentialed up and more than capable of providing for my family. I need a man that’s going to uplift my spirit. I’m woman enough to admit that I need a man to feed my soul. Motivate, inspire, me to strive for my God-given greatest. With him, everything is possible, because he places God first in his life. Only this man can be trusted, because his flesh doesn’t rule. His spirit man is his guide! God is his guide! He’s LESS likely to misguide you into the wrong direction. You should expect him to bring out the BEST in you, not hinder your spiritual, mental, or physical development. He’s not going to request you to become a kept woman, if that’s not what you desire, or create division between friends and family. If you lack purpose, he will help discover your purpose. As a supporter, he knows what your spirit desires before you even have to ask. With him, there are NO excuses, justifications, and inner need for material things to gratify your heart for a MOMENT. With him, there is peace of mind, confidence, high esteem, passion, purpose, strong will, drive, loving kindness, patience, agape love, comfort, security, faith, sense of completion. The Bible states, “When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing!” This is true! However, it’s doesn’t speak against choosing your mate in return. Just because a man chooses you, doesn’t mean you must choose him in return. It’s important to select a righteous man. With a Mighty Spiritual man, there is God! Ladies, the next time you decide to brag about your man, make certain you truly have something of substance to brag about pertaining to him! You may impress friends and associates that lack substance, but you will not appear impressive to those enlightened. Sadly, you will appear, bound, lost, broken, led astray, unaware, and a woman who lacks substance.
Victorious ones envision Victory!
Authoress: Nicole McGill
CEO/President of Victorious Visions Inc.
Victoriousvisionsinc.com
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